Feeling Unsure About

Adult Toys?

It is common for a man to feel threatened or uneasy by the idea of introducing adult toys into the bedroom. Dildos are known to be the biggest 'threat' out of them all as they are usually larger than or a replica of a real penis. It may sometimes feel like there is a competition between the man and the toy to see who can please her better. Men usually feel this way due to the worry that his woman may enjoy using the toys more than penetration with his penis. However, I can promise you this will not happen.

Feeling unsettled about the idea of using toys during sex is perfectly normal and there is nothing wrong with having these thoughts. Feeling this way is more common than you think! However, it is important to take consideration of her request if she suggests using them. 

The size of a dildo can seem very unsettling for some men. Especially if the length or girth of the toy is larger than their own penis. This is one of the reasons why it may feel like a competition. However, using a dildo on your woman that is larger than your own doesn't necessarily mean it feels better for her. It is more of a different sensation. Different sensations will produce different reactions.

Rather than seeing a dildo or vibrator as a threat, look at it as an extension of your own body, which allows you to explore new sensations with your partner. See it as something that you are in complete control of. See it as an aid, rather than a threat. You may be surprised how much more you can do with your partner when you introduce a toy or two. However, nothing can replace the sensation provided by a real penis.

Over time, some couples may find themselves following a routine during sex. By introducing toys and accessories into the bedroom, you are giving yourselves the key to discovering new sensations, positions and activities. You may find you enjoy things that you believed you wouldn't. You're given opportunities to learn new things about yourself and your partner, which over time will strengthen your bond.


You may find that you actually enjoy using the toy on your partner. You may even enjoy your partner using toys to pleasure you. Believe it or not, there is a lot of men that have discovered they actually enjoy using the toy/s on their partner as they know they are providing them with pleasure. They also enjoy allowing their partner to pleasure them by using adult toys. Some couples even say using toys brings more excitement to their sex lives.

It is completely understandable why some men feel unsettled by the thought of using sex toys with their partners. In reality, it's not as scary as it seems. Your woman will always love and care for you no matter what types of toys you both decide to use. The truth is, nothing is better than a real penis, toys just provide new sensations. You will never know if you like something or not until you try it.